We were all bundled up in the Ford Escape. I hopped in the driver’s seat while the girls were all strapped into their car seats. ‘Mommy, my 5 -year old says, “Can you grab my other Crocs these ones are too itchy.”
I sigh. Sure. This is my third time in the house. Forgot coupon binder. Forgot Teddy. Now Forgot Crocs.
I get back into the car and immediately my face turns to disgust. “Who farted?” I ask.
“Not Me.” Something wreaks in here.
I get to the end of our driveway and again I tell the girls. ‘This car smells horrible.”
Riley says “Mommy, it’s my feet.” I reach back touch her toes and smell my hand. Yes I am that gross. It is her feet.
I tell her we are buying her socks today. Those things need to sweat into something.
That I can justify. The kid has one pair of socks and it has worked because she HATES wearing them. But that smell. It can’t go on.
When you are on a spending freeze you are thinking about every purchase. You are questioning everything you buy and all that crosses your mind to buy.
This week I struggled with Date Night. I wanted to spend based on my feelings.
The girls spent the night at their grandparents Friday evening. We had alone time for the first time in 3 weeks! Yet we were both exhausted because we just moved.
It was really tempting to spit out my thoughts. “Ohhh I don’t feel like cooking. Can’t I just get a day off from cooking. Let’s go out to eat.”
I didn’t let them leave because sometimes just sharing those with someone else makes them happen. The temptation becomes stronger once you speak. I knew that I could put that money towards our groceries next week.
I could have let my feelings make a bad purchase. We didn’t need to spend $30 on dinner. Sure I could justify that we deserved it.
But did we need it?
Instead we ate leftovers. I didn’t have to cook and we were both happy. Truly we were exhausted. We got to spend time at home together enjoying it for the first time without the girls.
Emotions bring about many purchases in our life. Justifying those feelings results in things we may not be able to afford. Like Dave Ramsey says “We buy things we don’t need with money we don’t have to impress people we don’t like.”
Stress has strained my relationship with my husband in the past couple months. Yet we have strengthened our relationship with God. Like my dad says” To grow closer to your spouse you need to grow closer to the Lord.”
Even though we haven’t sold our house yet and we just dropped the price the stress is starting to drift. Our faith is being made stronger as well as our marriage. I can take a deep relaxing breath looking back and saying we made it through that. It wasn’t pretty but it came with meaning. We learn we grow we love.
Today I challenge you if you are doing a spending freeze to guard your emotions when it comes to purchases. Even if it is food for your family, we can fall into the trap of justifying buying all prepackaged convenience food and spending more money than if we just set aside an hour to make a meal menu and serve our family healthier food.
Here are 5 Tips To Empower YOU Today To Stop Your Emotional Spending
- Write Down Your Financial Goals and hang up in your kitchen. If you know what you are saving money for and are reminded of that each day you can hold on to that when temptation arises.
- Avoid leisurely shopping. Go to each store with a list and a purpose.
- Shop Alone. If your spouse, kids, friends, parents shop with you and tend to bring about emotions for items to buy, shop alone. This won’t have to be forever, just until you have the strength to say, No.
- Always ask is this a need or a want?! Don’t let your mind go into justification mode.
- Pray. Pray for wisdom with your finances. Pray for strength to fight temptation with spending. Ask your friends, family, and church family to pray with you.
For those curious as to what we bought this week I got groceries again and then we spent money on Dog Food, my daughter’s socks and gas. Next week I will need Toilet Paper for sure!
Not pictured a 55 lb. bag of Purina Dog Chow for $21.49 from BJ’s club!
Frozen 5 pack socks $4.49 from Walmart. I spent $20 on a tank of gas at Tops- I had $0.40/ off a gallon.
Total Spent this Week $71.98- includes tax.
I used three $0.75/1 Silk printable coupons doubled here and
Used a $1.50/1 Enjoy Life peelie coupon